So our thirties are basically our twenties?

I feel like I’m in a constant state of trying to figure out how to do life “correctly.” It’s funny because I had a blog in my twenties where I wrote about navigating life and trying to figure it all out. I’m 30 years old now and still wonder the same things.

Being an adult is weird, hard, and messy. Don’t get me wrong, the first year of my thirties has already been much better than my twenties (I’m older and wiser now), but there are parts of my life holding me back from the potential of what I know it could be. So, here are a few areas of my life where I feel like I’m struggling and the edits I’m going to make to improve them:

Lacking a stable morning/night routine

I am a doom scroller until the end, and I spend way too much time on my phone. I love scrolling on TikTok and Instagram and saving recipes I know I’ll never make. Unfortunately, this takes over my night routine and creates a snowball effect where I stay up way too late (revenge procrastination), which causes me to sleep in and ruin any shred of a morning routine I could have had. Not ideal, right? I feel like having a productive morning routine ties your life together. Ideally, I would get up early, get a workout in (or some kind of movement), tidy up my place, journal, and start my day intentionally.

The edit: I’m going to create a morning and night routine I can actually stick to. I want to be a 5 a.m. girlie so badly. I’ll test it out for a week and circle back with my results. Stay tuned.

Not having a solid financial plan

I have gone into debt, paid off debt, and gone into debt again. Granted, I’ve learned hard money lessons from my twenties, and I’m grateful for growth, but there are definitely current areas for improvement (credit card debt, a car note, and student loans I try to forget about). I also know that I have a YOLO mindset when it comes to money and can, at times, spend pretty frivolously.

The edit: I’m going to try to get myself out of this financial rut by having one day a week where I look at my finances (budget, create a debt payoff plan, and check in on my savings goals. Maybe I’ll call them Money Mondays.

Not consistently practicing self-care

I go through phases where I’ll take really good care of my mind and body, and then phases where it feels like I’m just barely scraping by and simply trying to make it through day by day. Earlier this year, I was marathon training, working out consistently, and eating healthy. I ended up getting sciatica and catching bronchitis around the same time, and that derailed everything. I haven’t worked out in months, and I feel the impact. My body feels slower, I haven’t been eating as well, and overall, I just feel icky. I want to get back to a place where I’m taking care of myself mentally and physically. You only get one body, so you have to treat it right.

The edit: I’m nowhere near where I was when I was marathon training, but I can find small ways to incorporate movement in my day. It could be a short walk or trying yoga, but I have to get this body moving again. I also want to spend less time on my phone doomscrolling and feed my mind by reading a new book or pouring into a hobby (like this blog).

Lack of fulfillment/not taking advantage of my free will

I am a very cautious person. I always want to do the right thing, make the right choice, and keep myself safe. Although it’s obviously important to stay cautious, it’s held me back in so many ways. It’s stopped me from trying new things, entering relationships/dating, or even exploring new hobbies, from fear of failure. Life is short, and I don’t want to continue to live with regrets or what-ifs. I want to step out of the box that’s been holding me back for so long and start doing things that scare me a little bit (in a healthy way).

The edit: Plan one mini adventure for myself, a week to escape the routine of work/home/sleep/repeat. It can be something as small as trying a new cafe or taking myself to a museum, but I need to get out of the house and start doing things that take me outside of my normal routine.

The plan is to start small. They (not sure who) say progress isn’t built overnight and is made up of the little steps you take in the moment(or something like that). I know not every day is going to be perfect, but I think these edits will get me one step closer to getting out of this little rut I’ve been stuck in.